Comments on: Showing Love is not subservient

By: Virginia Lockwood

Virginia Lockwood — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 01:18:55 +0000

Dear Kathie, I have been taught by God himself that to love Him is to serve Him. The word says we are to submit to our husbands for a reason, when our husbands love us as Christ loved His church we want to do everything to we can to please Him because we know He will be doing his best to please us and 2 happy people = a happy home where there is growth in all areas. No longer married I look froward to the day when God will give me a christian man who understands this and will happily serve him because then I am pleasing to Jesus. When a woman understands her role and lets the husband play his role there is great security and freedom, the world don’t understand this. I have done my best to teach this to my 3 girls and to my son who will one day be married and I want them to succeed. I thank God for people like you who are prepared to stand up and say what the truth is so the world will know why we are different.
Thank you again. Virginia South Australia

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[...] Worth More Than Rubies: The Value of a Work At Home Mom“>There are a lot of resources available for women and Proverbs 31. We will share some of those resources on Day 31 every month. Today we are looking at Proverbs 31:12 and wanted to pass on a YouTube video from Kathie M. Thomas and a post that she she wrote about the difference between showing Love and not being a subservient. Read her post here. [...]

By: Chanel Hilliard

Chanel Hilliard — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 17:14:26 +0000

If you enjoy helping people outside your home (even strangers), then why shouldn’t you enjoy helping people you love and care for inside your home.

We are here to carry one another’s burdens and to love one another.

Just imagine what a wonderful world it would be if we all were God’s servants to one another.

By: Stuart Campbell

Stuart Campbell — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 06:29:14 +0000

Hi Kathie. Your comments touch on an interesting point.

From a male’s point of view, these acts are not about subservience. Rather they are acts of kindness or love. In many ways they can also be unconditional – not expecting anything in return.

The fact that they occur within the contaxt of marriage should not alter their nature. These kind acts could occur between friends, neighbours, spouses or other family members.

Keep up the good work!

Stuart

By: Melodieann Whiteley

Melodieann Whiteley — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 00:18:29 +0000

My husband called me on his way from work today to tell me he had bought me a gift. He knows that I am often out after dark and he bought me lights for the walkway from the driveway to the house. It’s his way of showing his care for me. I make sure he has a pitcher of cold sweet tea ready when he comes home and a decent meal. He built me a trellis for my new hummingbird vine. I make sure he has a comfortable, clean home to return to each day. We are not being subservient. We are demonstrating our affection and care for each other. If that makes me submissive I guess I am – submissive to God’s word that I am to care for my husband.

The Proverbs 31 woman is a strong and independent woman who honors and loves her husband and does not hesitate to show it. More woman would do well to follow that example.

By: Karen O'Bannon

Karen O'Bannon — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 13:08:13 +0000

Giving has always been an act of love, and (even though true givers don’t seek it) we are blessed back when we do. Unfortunately, the selfish world we live in has convinced us that those who give are fools, and the name-calling causes us to flince.

But it’s what we miss by not giving that is the greater sin. The satisfaction in sharing a part of yourself. The feeling of being appreciated. And the honor of pleasing God.

By: Debra Stokes

Debra Stokes — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 16:10:22 +0000

Kathie,
That post will likely have a tremendous impact on some women who have never taken the time to consider just what “a demonstration of love in action” means. Often we have to mount a serious fight against our “what about me” culture and realize that it is a good thing to give.
Thanks for sharing.
Blessings!
Debra

By: Beverly Mahone

Beverly Mahone — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 14:23:32 +0000

My husband often tells me the difference between me and his ex is I’m always showing him I love him by the things I do for him and I do them freely without him having to ask me. I do it because I love him and I want to honor him as my husband. If that’s being a “sevant” well WHATEVER! I gladly accept that role.

By: Gina Lazar

Gina Lazar — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 08:49:56 +0000

Hi Kathie! I like a lot your message and totally agree with what you wrote even i am not married. Like also the video from Youtube and saw what that person wrote ; good answer you gave to him/ her .
When you are a Christian and know what true love is washing, making dinner…for your husband and kids do not mean you are a servant , everything is done from love. These days two many person forgot what real love mean – before to love you must understand what real love is.

God bless you

Gina

By: Angel Cope

Angel Cope — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 12:04:48 +0000

I have encountered women who feel that serving their husbands is to be a servant… You said it best: “If anyone at all feels that a wife doing something for her husband (freely and willingly) is an act of being a servant then I would say that person has never ever experienced true love.”

Jesus was a servant to those he loved even though he was their leader. We are to serve one another, (Galatians 5:13) I serve my husband and he serves me. Yes, I get up and make the coffee every morning because I am the first one up, and at times will take a cup to him. He will make the bed for me every morning, and unload the dishwasher so that my day starts with no dishes in the sink. He does this for me because he knows how much I appreciate it, He loves me and therefore wants to serve me. He does express how much he loves my cooking. (especially if it is his favorite spaghetti I will hear his gratitude all night long.)

I am no more of a servant to him than I am my children. I am their “superior” in position, strength, and knowledge, but because I love them I cook for them, clean for them, and give to them freely. Sometimes they do not appreciate it. They sometimes grumble about the dinner I made, but do I stop feeding them? no, because I love them.