Value your marriage
She makes coverings for her bed… Proverbs 31:22
I hate a messy bedroom, don’t you? For me it probably dates back to when I was 16 years of age. I was engaged to a boy of 18 and his mother had lent me a book about looking after the marital home. I know we were very young in those days but there had been a good reason. He was dying of cancer and being his fiance meant I was allowed into the hospital to visit him at any time. So his and my parents consented to our engagement. I was probably too young to realise at the time that we would never marry but I did read the book and took seriously what was written and still apply many of those things today.
I love our bedroom to look inviting and not messy. For sometime I was tiring of the way it looked and wanted to dress it up somewhat. I’d found some great bed coverings and stored them away in hiding. And then one day my eldest daughter helped me measure and shop for new curtains and then we hung them and made up the bed together. I couldn’t wait for Graham to get home that night to see our new look bedroom. It looked like something from one of those beautiful B&B places and I was thrilled with the result. So was he as he had no idea of the surprise I’d planned for him and he’d been thinking our room looked small and tired but hadn’t said anything – he hadn’t wanted to upset me. The new colours and decor now make the room look fresh and larger somehow. He certainly made sure I knew he appreciated how much I cared about the room that cemented our marriage. Graham’s always been good like that – he makes sure I know his appreciation and love for me.
Many years ago I saw the bedroom of a couple I knew and it was cluttered with mess – clothing, newspapers, books and all sorts of things everywhere, even on the bed. I remember thinking what they would have to go through just to climb into bed each night. What would happen to the spontaneity of love-making in that household? Perhaps it never happened. I knew this wasn’t a once-only situation but something that was constant in their household. I don’t believe for a moment that this was the only problem in their marriage and the cause for their breakdown later on in years but I do feel that perhaps their bedroom wasn’t valued by either of them and this wouldn’t have helped their situation. Somehow I feel that the care taken in a marital bedroom spills over to the care taken in that marriage and both husband and wife benefit from that effort. What do you think?
I firmly believe it is the wife’s role to make the home a place the husband wants to come home to daily. We hear so much of marital problems, husbands staying at work long hours or other things interfering with their marriage. I’ve always wanted to make sure that Graham loves coming home and I know he does – he’s told me often. I know it is true many women work away from home today and the housework might be lacking, but the bedroom should still be their private domain and one that is always inviting. If the husband is one that is home more then perhaps this is something he could be caring for. The bedroom of a married couple is one that should be sanctified, set apart, kept special and always inviting. After all it is within the walls of this room that marriages are nurtured and celebrated and it should be in an environment that is pleasing.
As an Addendum I found a post on how to make your bedroom sexy with romantic decor. This advice isn’t just for young couples – it’s for everyone!
August 20th, 2008 at 8:22 pm
very interesting concept – I will have to try some of these ideas. I need to get the kids out of my bedroom now I got them out of my bed.
My Little Drummer Boys
August 25th, 2008 at 8:27 am
My husband and I both have hectic careers and yes, the house isn’t always as tidy as I would like. But our bedroom is always neat and tidy. The bed is always made, the clothes are put away. Even his computer desk, which occupies a corner of our room, is organized. I always wondered why we just naturally seem to end up in this room in the evenings. I’ll sit on the bed and read and he’ll be at the computer and we will talk about our day and whatever we are finding interesting enough to share with each other. When we tire of talking we’ll turn out the lights and just spend time together in our bed. This room is our sanctuary and the foundation of our bond. Kathie, you opened my eyes to something that I guess I knew instinctively. I will always be sure that no matter how tired I am, the bedroom is a place of warmth and welcome for my husband.